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Spirituality and Virtues

Throughout its long and rich history, Christ's College has maintained its foundation in Christian values, expecting boys to live lives underpinned by honesty, respect, spirituality, justice, compassion and stewardship.

These are timeless values which, once learned, will serve each boy well throughout his life. Our chaplain guides the spiritual life of the school, following the broad ethos of Anglicanism, whilst recognising the multi-denominational community in which we live. College welcomes boys of all religions and cultures.

At the heart of the school stands the Chapel. All boys attend Chapel services on Monday and Friday mornings, congregational singing practice on Wednesdays, and at least two Sunday services each term. Parents and families are warmly welcomed at Sunday services.

Boys are invited to be baptised if they wish, and a confirmation course is offered to Year 12 and 13 students.

In religious education classes, boys have the opportunity to learn about the great religions of the world, and to reflect on their on own beliefs. Knowing about religion, philosophy and ethics is not only valuable to finding meaning in life, but is also essential for a broad education and provides a foundation for other subjects, from art to English to history.

We aim to help the boys develop a mature understanding of social and cultural differences and to meet the challenges of good citizenship.

Chapel Notes

  • Friday 7 July
    What foundations help and support us through ordinary life and through unexpected events? In a few days it is the feast of St Benedict - his Rule and monastic lifestyle helped us through the 'Dark Ages'. Our school looks like a monastery because that is where learning was maintained and flourished. In childhood, parents, family, and society lay those foundations. In teenage years, you take more control of your own foundations. How are you doing in the conscious forming of your foundations – because that is what you have been doing this term.

    Benedict came up with a “middle way”, a balanced life. But not half way – more “both/and” rather than “either/or”. So we here aren’t choosing: culture or sport or social/emotional or academic or spiritual – because of Benedict, we are developing all of those dimensions of our foundations. How much ownership did you take of developing your foundations in each of those areas this term?

  • Monday 2 July
    The Bible is absolutely brilliant about humility. The word itself – humility – comes from humus "earth". It’s literally and scientifically true, of course – in biology you study the processes of how we are made from the earth. And Genesis 2 begins a wonderfully playfulness around humans being made from earth – we are earth creatures. And humility is being down to earth.

    Humility isn’t about grovelling, or not speaking directly. Humility is about knowing what you are really like – your weaknesses AND your gifts and skills. This is about having an open, a growth mindset in all that we do.

  • Friday 29 June
    Honesty is one of the explicit virtues held by our school. In the survey, it was also voted as a top Character Strength of Jesus.

    You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour; you shall be honest – is one of the commandments. The “post-truth culture” and “fake news” we live in affects us, including learning. We can feel uncertain that we can discover truth, disheartening us and the effort required for the search for learning.

    We are called to live in the truth, to bear witness to the truth, to have respect for the truth. There’s lots wrapped up in this command: to respect a person’s reputation – that includes not gossiping; to avoid rash judgement; to be careful to interpret another person’s words and deeds in as positive a way as possible.

    His closest friends found that Jesus’ words, his teachings, and his life – were totally aligned. He had integrity with a capital I – well with the whole word in capitals.

    You and I are part of a school named after him. On Monday I challenged you each day, each one of us to do one random act of kindness – how has that gone the last 5 days? Be honest with yourself – honesty. Today I challenge us to grow in integrity. To walk the talk - me as much as you.

  • Monday 25 June
    In Chapel we looked at Kohlber’s stages of moral development:

    Stage 1 - How can I avoid punishment?

    Stage 2 is: What's in it for me?

    Stage 3 is about Social norms – you do it because… that’s what everyone does; this is what your mates do; this is what your school does; this is what your family does; this is what Kiwis do.

    Stage 4: Law and order morality – well we’d just have chaos wouldn’t we if we didn’t obey the rules? It’s the law! It’s in the school rules!

    Stage 5 – and many people don’t reach Stage 5 – is about developing a social contract. At Stage 5, we respect different values, different approaches, and we try and balance social order and individual rights.

    Stage 6 - Scientists have found it found it difficult to identify individuals who consistently operate at stage 6 where actions are based on abstract reasoning using universal ethical principles.

    In the school, you voted for Kindness as a top Character Strength of Jesus.

    The VIA Character Strengths website says:

    Kind individuals believe that others are worthy of attention and affirmation for their own sake as human beings, not out of s sense of duty or principle – now you see the connection to Kohlberg’s stages. The VIA website says: There are three traits of altruistic personalities:


    Moral reasoning

    Social responsibility

    I quoted from the famous speech by George Saunders – you can watch it here, or read it here​​​​​​​.

    [The links are

    first 'here':

    second 'here':

  • Friday 22 June
    Leadership was voted a top Character Strength of Jesus. We are ALL leaders - in what we say; in the way we act.

    In Chapel we focused on the Proverb: "Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life." How are we keeping our heart so that we are growing as a character-based leader? Someone who has integrity, is trustworthy, has emotional intelligence, is open, humble, honest.

    Watch your thoughts. They become words. Watch your words. They become deeds. Watch your deeds. They become habits. Watch your habits. They become character. Character is everything.

    Character; calling; competence; community; Christ (We have the example, teaching, and in fact the life and energy of Christ – arguably the greatest leader in human history).

  • Monday 18 June
    Nelson Mandela was a leader against apartheid in South Africa. In 1962, he was arrested. He spent 27 years in prison. When he was released, he said, “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.”

    Forgiveness is about breaking the chain, the incessant chain of cause and effect – Person A hurts Person B – so Person B hurts or tries to hurt Person A back. Or even Person B now hurts Person C.

    Both the school and beyond the school survey placed forgiveness as a top Character Strength of Jesus.

    When someone hurts us, mistreats us – we are connected to that, like a chain. They may not even realise they’ve hurt us, what they’ve done. Forgiveness breaks the chain. It’s not simply being ‘nice’; it’s not simply letting people just walk all over you – it’s much stronger, much braver, much more powerful than that. Forgiving people aren’t weak people – they are strong people.

    Getting someone back for hurting me – that doesn’t really lessen evil in the world. It simply increases the evil in the world. Retaliation simply makes me more like the person who hurt me.

    From the VIA site I’ve been quoting: "When you practice forgiveness, you experience less of the negative emotions of anger, anxiety, depression and hostility. There are a number of potential benefits from your strength of forgiveness including having productive interpersonal relationships, thriving in team situations, job satisfaction, high morale, greater productivity, and innovative problem solving."
  • Friday 15 June
    From the surveys – inside and outside the school – love is an agreed top Character Strength of Jesus. The VIA Institute on Character website gives a cluster of different dimensions of love. That is nothing new. The New Testament has:

    Eros – Romantic love
    Philia – friendship
    Storge – love within a family; a parent of a child
    ​​​​​​​Agape – altruistic love; compassion
    And then there's
    Ludus – playful love
    Pragma – longstanding love
    Philautia – love of the self.

    Love is not simply about feelings (good though they might be) but about action – about putting another first; about not having me as central. It (like the cross) is I crossed out. Jesus, God, the 'Universe', love – this has our back. That's the good news. We don't need to incessantly put ourselves centre stage (that's what sin is). I challenge you to try it: put others first – you might be surprised by the positive experience that results.
  • Monday 11 June
    Spirituality - Jesus' Character Strength

    In the survey, inside the school, "Spirituality" was chosen as the top Character Strength of Jesus.

    VIA Institute on Character: If Spirituality is your top strength you have strong and coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe. You know where you fit in the larger scheme. Your beliefs shape your actions and are a source of comfort to you.

    We all need this at some time or other in our lives, so even if it is not a strong Character Strength, we can dial it up: "Cultivate sacred moments in which you set aside time to "just be" with a special/sacred object or space/environment.

    Build in spiritual tools as a regular practice (ex: prayer, meditation, exploring nature) or as a way of approaching life (eg: giving charity, showing compassion to less fortunate individuals).

    When experiencing trauma or a difficult situation, look for the deeper meaning and purpose of the experience."

    Fascinatingly, the survey done by (presumably) older & churchy people online, did not rank Spirituality at all. This is a disconnect where young people have a message for the church.
  • Friday 8 June
    A student asked me, "What does Shalom mean?"

    It is a Hebrew word. Words in one language regularly do not easily translate to another word in another language - with each occurrence being simply "find and replace". Shalom means a whole cluster of English concepts: peace, harmony, wholeness, completeness, prosperity, tranquillity. Jesus often greets with "Peace be with you" shalom aleichem.

    We can sometimes get the idea that wellness is some newly discovered concept. Sure – the word “wellness” may be newish – but the idea of living fully, wholesomely, healthily, flourishingly – and wishing that we all do this – equally; and expressing this to each other positively – that’s been around a good 4000 or more years. In the Jewish & Christian tradition, the word Shalom is a good way to talk about it.
  • Friday 1 June
    Grandchildren are the crown of the aged - is the proverb, the whakataukī we heard.
    You become a grandparent when you have a grandchild. You need both: grandparent AND grandchild; the older AND the younger; older and newer. This is a good symbol for Christ's College: Innovation AND tradition.

    Innovations you notice different since you came last year: the new welcoming waiata; a box for hopes, thoughts, prayers. The former as an expression of being a 21st Century school in Aotearoa New Zealand in an increasingly global village. The latter as another expression of mindfulness - encouraging people to pause and be present in the present.
  • Monday 28 May
    St Augustine of Canterbury

    On Saturday, it was the feast day of Augustine of Canterbury – the left light in the southern sanctuary window.

    Christianity has been in England it seems since the first century – probably with the Roman Empire there.

    The Roman authorities withdrew from Britain in 410 and they were left to defend themselves against the Saxons. The Southern Anglo-Saxon areas of Britain became pagan. But the Western part of Britain stayed Christian, with the same Celtic type of Christianity as was in Ireland.

    In 596, Gregory, the Bishop of Rome, sent Augustine and a team of 30 other monks from St Andrew’s monastery in Rome to England. They landed in Britain in 597. Although Christianity was already present, Gregory spoke of this as the foundation of the Church of England.

    Just as Augustine found himself combining different traditions from Rome, from monasteries, from Celtic Christianity – so today’s Archbishop of Canterbury leads a church that combines Christian traditions from Rome, from monasteries, and from Celtic Christianity.

    A lot of the traditions of Christ’s College can be traced to the spirituality of Augustine. Augustine also had a wise approach in converting people. He respected all that was already good in their lives. He transformed pagan temples into churches and transformed pagan celebrations into Christian ones.

    Combine good in all you find: innovation and excellence wrapped in tradition.

    “Middle Way” – not half way but combining. Not half way between spirituality and academic, but being engaged well in each dimension of our lives: spirituality, academic, physical, cultural, emotional.
  • Friday 25 May
    Feast of the Venerable Bede – 8th Century English monk (we have a window representing him in our sanctuary)

    The ideal of his lifestyle is echoed in the ideals of this school – very much holding things in balance. Spirituality, academic, social, cultural, physical.
    1. We need to know history - including reflecting on our own individual history/story as a foundation towards the future
    2. We need intelligent Christianity/spirituality
    3. We need to find and make space in our increasingly busy lives
  • Monday 21 May
    Today is the World Day for Cultural Diversity for Dialogue and Development

    Reading: The Day of Pentecost, Acts 2

    I spoke about travelling with my wife Helen for six years, experiencing a huge diversity of cultures and languages. I focused on Africa – going through the Sahara for three months; biking in the sub-Sahara; spending time with the Dogon people, who still produce rock art; travelling for two weeks on the Congo River with 2,000 people and 24-hour discos; hunting in the jungles with the Pygmies; seeing gorillas in the wild ... And how the one we call God – the mystery at the heart of the universe – creates diversity; and how we need not be afraid of diversity, but are enriched by it.

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